Rik, I really like how you show us what good coaching is all about early in this essay: "I wasn’t even trying to “do” anything, just listening, reflecting, staying close to her thinking."
Listening and reflecting back what you're hearing from someone else is such an key element in any form of communication. Thank you for the reminder.
Couldn't agree more Larry. It's fundamental and the first thing I teach and practice with people wanting to improve their communication skills. Simple but not easy though, I'm still working on it ;)
…when i was a my brother had a football coach who was infamous for dunking kids in puddles when they screwed up…i tell this to show the depths of absurdity in the style potential of coaches (and i know you are more of a life coach, listen coach, convo coach)…when i read about the great sports coaches there is overlap, in that the goal can be to draw out someone else’s greatness…like therapists the best advice i have found is to never settle…work with the people who truly help you and leave the one’s who don’t…i mean if i judged all actors off of Rob Schneider sheesh…
Haha yes. Don't settle for any of the helping professions, find a good one you click with, or keep looking. Drawing out (and believing in) in someone else's greatness is the key to be of service in any of these. You address a point about the word coach here though that I still struggle with. That it's so incredibly unclear it is what it means, like a sports coach is pretty radically different from what I do. I've never found a better way to describe what I do, but I'm open to suggestions (like 'listen' or 'convo' coach etc. ;)
Rik, I really like how you show us what good coaching is all about early in this essay: "I wasn’t even trying to “do” anything, just listening, reflecting, staying close to her thinking."
Listening and reflecting back what you're hearing from someone else is such an key element in any form of communication. Thank you for the reminder.
Couldn't agree more Larry. It's fundamental and the first thing I teach and practice with people wanting to improve their communication skills. Simple but not easy though, I'm still working on it ;)
…when i was a my brother had a football coach who was infamous for dunking kids in puddles when they screwed up…i tell this to show the depths of absurdity in the style potential of coaches (and i know you are more of a life coach, listen coach, convo coach)…when i read about the great sports coaches there is overlap, in that the goal can be to draw out someone else’s greatness…like therapists the best advice i have found is to never settle…work with the people who truly help you and leave the one’s who don’t…i mean if i judged all actors off of Rob Schneider sheesh…
Haha yes. Don't settle for any of the helping professions, find a good one you click with, or keep looking. Drawing out (and believing in) in someone else's greatness is the key to be of service in any of these. You address a point about the word coach here though that I still struggle with. That it's so incredibly unclear it is what it means, like a sports coach is pretty radically different from what I do. I've never found a better way to describe what I do, but I'm open to suggestions (like 'listen' or 'convo' coach etc. ;)