Rik, thanks for this reminder. With my coach hat on I can more easily step into Reflections mode. It's when I'm with my partner, or friends that I find myself asking questions as they try to tell me something. I used to think that showed I was really interested. But the opposite is what's happening. They are derailed, as you say, their train of thought is disrupted and they feel sort of sideswiped, rather than listened to. I'm still working on this! :-) But the more I listen or simply reflect, the more they reveal.
…without a doubt reflective listening is one of the hardest and most important skills I have ever been introduced to…your metaphor is rich here also in many ways, it is important to see the mirror as true and false, and if we are to be one, to allow for our perfect imperfections (and those less than perfect)…i very much appreciate you sharing this knowledge, i am an oft questioning man, but i hope some day i am more certainly not that…
Rik, thanks for this reminder. With my coach hat on I can more easily step into Reflections mode. It's when I'm with my partner, or friends that I find myself asking questions as they try to tell me something. I used to think that showed I was really interested. But the opposite is what's happening. They are derailed, as you say, their train of thought is disrupted and they feel sort of sideswiped, rather than listened to. I'm still working on this! :-) But the more I listen or simply reflect, the more they reveal.
I fully agree Linda. And I'm also very much still working on this ;)
…without a doubt reflective listening is one of the hardest and most important skills I have ever been introduced to…your metaphor is rich here also in many ways, it is important to see the mirror as true and false, and if we are to be one, to allow for our perfect imperfections (and those less than perfect)…i very much appreciate you sharing this knowledge, i am an oft questioning man, but i hope some day i am more certainly not that…