I love how you mirrored the Steve Chandler way through your own writing, the authenticity of your own story, the vulnerable sharing, and praise of your own coach. I also learned that I shouldn't expect you to do it again. ha ha. But seriously, this expectation/agreement thing has some fuzzy edges for me. I think I get the basic principle and the list of differences was useful, but for instance, I've come to expect this caliber of thoughtful writing from you, but feel that you yourself have set that expectation in place by the reliability of what you deliver. You titled your publication "The Conversation Starter" which I take as a clear signal of intent to spark dialogue, which can't happen unless your reader agrees to respond with their take on your ideas. And so I do. Have we fallen into a useful agreement then? It feels creative, conversational, and hopefully mutual. Can the dance of living from agreements happen almost subliminally as a natural effect of emotionally intelligent exchanges? Or am I missing the point—and it's something more explicit and clearly defined by two people? I feel that my own 20 year marriage is a multilayered montage of successful agreements we've never talked about, the toxic expectations you mention we've eventually had to unravel, and many other engagement zones that are a mix of the two. Money was a very big swamp of indistinct expectments and agreementations. We've recently come to some agreements that have improved our interactions in this area 1000%. This is very interesting to reflect on. Thanks again for the "inner conversation" starter. : )
As I step into a new level of relationship with my grow(n)ing children this concept of expectations vs agreement is incredibly timely. Thanks Ric! (And Steven Chandler)
This was so great Rik! I want to look at more situations in my life and see where there may be an expectation vs an agreement (I already know it'll be a lot). Loved to see the evolution of this piece!
"He probably saved my relationship and if you’re unfamiliar with the idea, let me help you save yours." Now that's what I call a hook! And the best part is you deliver on it. Can see myself as an over-expecting and under-agreeing partner - thanks for the nudge in the right direction, Rik.
I love how you mirrored the Steve Chandler way through your own writing, the authenticity of your own story, the vulnerable sharing, and praise of your own coach. I also learned that I shouldn't expect you to do it again. ha ha. But seriously, this expectation/agreement thing has some fuzzy edges for me. I think I get the basic principle and the list of differences was useful, but for instance, I've come to expect this caliber of thoughtful writing from you, but feel that you yourself have set that expectation in place by the reliability of what you deliver. You titled your publication "The Conversation Starter" which I take as a clear signal of intent to spark dialogue, which can't happen unless your reader agrees to respond with their take on your ideas. And so I do. Have we fallen into a useful agreement then? It feels creative, conversational, and hopefully mutual. Can the dance of living from agreements happen almost subliminally as a natural effect of emotionally intelligent exchanges? Or am I missing the point—and it's something more explicit and clearly defined by two people? I feel that my own 20 year marriage is a multilayered montage of successful agreements we've never talked about, the toxic expectations you mention we've eventually had to unravel, and many other engagement zones that are a mix of the two. Money was a very big swamp of indistinct expectments and agreementations. We've recently come to some agreements that have improved our interactions in this area 1000%. This is very interesting to reflect on. Thanks again for the "inner conversation" starter. : )
As I step into a new level of relationship with my grow(n)ing children this concept of expectations vs agreement is incredibly timely. Thanks Ric! (And Steven Chandler)
This was so great Rik! I want to look at more situations in my life and see where there may be an expectation vs an agreement (I already know it'll be a lot). Loved to see the evolution of this piece!
This made me laugh out loud because it hit home, hard.
This is so good. Thanks for sharing a bit of Steve Chandler with us!
"He probably saved my relationship and if you’re unfamiliar with the idea, let me help you save yours." Now that's what I call a hook! And the best part is you deliver on it. Can see myself as an over-expecting and under-agreeing partner - thanks for the nudge in the right direction, Rik.