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This is so true. I read a poem recently that I loved, one of the lines is: "I will not negotiate by withholding" –– I feel like that is a similar vein as unspoken expectations.

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Oct 10Author

Love that line. It seems like so often we do though, out of fear or 'ease' (in the short term).

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This essay is laden with truisms, Rik. And wonderful metaphors to make the point: Unspoken expectations can slowly push relationships apart without most people noticing. Like countless tiny raindrops that, over time, carve a solid mountain into a deep canyon.

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Oct 19Author

Ha, glad you liked that one. I actually surprised myself coming up with that one ;)

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Highlighted these!

Here are a few questions to get you started:

- How often should we stay in touch, and what's the best way—texts, Zoom calls, carrier pigeons?

- Are you glued to your phone, or is a delayed response your style?

- What's your typical day like? Are there times when you're off the grid?

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